It’s been more than 2 years since I left my partner and the unhealthy relationship we had together. Change has been present ever since; new place, new clothes, financial distress, back to mom’s, new job, new country, new city, new home, new friends, and a list that could keep going. (when I say ‘new’ I mean new in my life).
Though some of this changes have been utterly positive, I can’t seem to start doing the things at the pace I desire or even maybe accomplish some goals that I set to myself. It’s weird cus’ I’ve always been an over-achiever and high-performer at work; right now, reality is far from that, but I’ve been able to notice some patterns of how I usually do things I like and avoid anything I don’t like or I have zero interest in, like paying more attention to budget and savings.
So today I want to write about something I’ll try out to see if I can start getting some traction into accomplishing some of the things I want.
It all starts with Desire. This is very powerful, Desire is one of the top motivators, it can come from a negative experience so you desire to change that, or it can come from a positive desire you want to reach. Today I’ll use the positive one for me - my life is not that uncomfortable now, for this to work you need to be ata point where you really need to change my life situation to survive.
Your desired state has to be SUPER MEGA EMOTIONAL, something that when you think about it your eyes get bright, your heart rate goes up and you feel thrilled. NEVER DREAM TOO LITTLE! Think 3 years from now, where you want to be, how you want your life to look like.
Write this down and start reading it daily. Imagine your life as if you are experiencing this desired state. Think not only on the things you’ll have but also the feelings (e.g. peace of mind, love, unstressed). Read it or imagine living in that state for 3-5 minutes 3 times every day, it can be before/after breakfast, lunch, and diner to ease things.
Here’s mine: I’m traveling every month to spend 1 or more weeks with my son in Mexico City. He comes to travel with me during his school breaks: we go to amazing places where we have a blast of fun, and practice some hobbies and sports, like snowboarding. I live at a house recently built or renovated with beautiful modern design and appliances; you just feel good when you get in, there’s now way you’ll miss that feeling any day. I constantly host gatherings with friends where we enjoy a good talk, good food, good music, good movies, or good board games. I work a couple hours a day to ensure businesses are running smoothly; my real estate business is consolidating and team is 20 people, and I’m soon to open a restaurant that serves Mexican Food I love and I haven’t been able to easily find in Portland.